There can be a lot of pressure to have sex or do something sexual as well as a feeling that something is wrong with you if you are a virgin. But we are here to tell you it’s okay to be a virgin.
If you haven’t had sexual experiences, this doesn’t mean you are immature or not a sexual person.
We live in a world that is hyper sexualized and at every corner we are told that life is all about sex.
Most music videos are about sex, being sexy, desired and moving in a sexualized way. Sex is promoted pretty much everywhere, no wonder that we start believing that our life is boring without it!
It’s normal to want to fit in and be a part of a group. It can make you feel accepted and build your self-esteem.
However, never feel pressured to have sex or do something sexual because ‘everyone else is doing it’.
This could lead to being hurt, upset or regretting what you have allowed and what has happened.
If you don’t feel ready or are not interested in sex you don’t have to doubt what you are feeling.
Your sexuality is unique to you and is about how much you value yourself and your body.
Know yourself. A big part of avoiding being pressured into doing something you don’t want to do is knowing yourself and knowing what is important to you and what you value. Being aware of your feelings can help you make the right choice for yourself.
Take your time. There is no rush.
Find someone who genuinely respects and cares about you and who you like and trust – avoid doing anything sexual just to complete a checklist. To enjoy sex with another person is NOT and should never be a challenging process of trial and error.
Self-love is the best foundation for you to know when you are ready for sex. A cherished and loved body tells you when its ready.
Be yourself. Respect yourself. Love yourself ❤️
THE STIGMA OF BEING A VIRGIN
There can be a lot of stigma around the word virgin and someone being a virgin, being seen as not a ‘cool’ thing.
- The word virgin and frigid can be used to insult or bully someone.
- Instead of being seen as someone’s choice it can be seen as someone not finding or having a partner or interested in sex.
- People who choose virginity because of religious or cultural reasons can be seen that they don’t have a choice or voice of their own, when this might not be true.