Think about it: Is everything you post on your social media about the real you?
Do we post all that’s going on in our life or only the ‘good’ parts of it, that are ‘worth’ showing? Filtering only what we want people to see?
If so, then, why would we believe everything we see and read in other people’s profiles?
Do we question if this ‘amazing’ person that we see online is real?
To be able to navigate in a safe and healthy way, we need to constantly question ourselves if what we are watching, reading, hearing, is real.
Next time you see the perfect photo with the perfect couple in it and the perfect life, remember that social media is just a frame of a person’s life that usually captures the best parts of it.
If you find yourself comparing, remember that outside of the picture lies the REAL YOU, with all that you are!
Fake or Real what one person discovered:
Fake life Strategies:
ONE: It’s a competition to see who shows the least interest. The more you ignore the person the more it seems to indicate that you like them. Everyone is playing hard to get. If you present yourself as natural, vulnerable, sincere and make a comment such as: I’m looking forward to seeing you, I really like you… It generates the opposite effect. They tend to believe that the person has “fallen for them”, and the other party loses interest completely.
TWO: To be a good player in this game we have become strategists. The photo you upload to your Instagram story is highly thought out so that the person you want to see it reacts. You know that person likes skating, so you get a skateboard, take a picture of yourself and upload it to social media, even though you’ve never actually skated and have no interest in skating at all. But you know that person will react to your story. Everything is designed so that someone in particular reacts in some way to what you upload on the network.
THREE: Every action is there to generate attention from the other in a very specific way. If you want them to think you’re funny, just upload pictures of yourself doing funny things. If you want them to think you are a smart person; upload some stories reading or take pictures of yourself in front of the computer to show you are busy. Even if that’s not the actual reality. You’ve simply posed in that moment to make your followers see that that’s you.
FOUR: When sending messages, the longer you take to respond, the more interesting people think you are. They will think that you are a busy person and that you don’t have time to look at your phone, unlike the rest of the world who can’t be kept away from it. If you write a message and the other person takes 1 hour to respond, when they answer you, you have to take two hours to reply.