Libido refers to sexual desire and is also called “sex drive.” Your libido is influenced by:
- biological or hormonal factors (testosterone and oestrogen levels)
- your psychological wellbeing
- the level of intimacy you feel in your relationship
Loss of libido or low libido seems to be a common problem that affects many people at some point in their life.
If you feel you have loss of libido one of the first things to consider is whether you’re happy in your relationship. Do you have any doubts or worries that could be behind your loss of sexual desire?
Research shows that frequent internet pornography use is also related with low libido. A review shows that there is an increase in low sexual satisfaction, low desire and problems with erectile function among young men from watching porn, because real-life sexual experiences are not arousing them anymore.
Your libido isn’t just a function that makes you want to have sex, it is about the relationship you have with yourself and each other and how you are with each other at all times. For example, are you caring and attentive to each other, when your not being physical?
Being in a long-term relationship doesn’t mean that you will lose sexual attraction towards your partner. The more open and intimate you are with your partner the stronger the relationship can be. Communication and connection are always key in a relationship!
If you feel you have loss of libido check with your doctor if you have a physical or psychological issue that make sex difficult or unfulfilling like ejaculation problems, erectile dysfunction, vaginal dryness, painful sex an inability to orgasm, depression or feeling stressed, etc.
If you feel an overly high sex drive and want to be aroused in that moment, or lots of times, it can seem demanding and make your partner feel uncomfortable so make sure you check in with them about this, or get support if needed.