Dating can take you to highs and lows. You may be excited and have the strongest feelings of your life, which is great when things are going well, but if it’s not going well or the relationship ends, we can find ourselves being devasted. So, what’s the key to not letting this happen?
If your feelings aren’t returned you may start to question yourself believing that there is something wrong with you, that you’re not good enough. In a healthy relationship, the feelings are mutual, respecting each other, having fun together. If this is not the case its super important to know there is NOTHING WRONG with YOU just stay with your values and what you know is true.
If you feel it’s not working with the other person, then let them know that you don’t want to continue. You don’t have to tell them what you don’t like about them, this doesn’t matter, it’s about respecting you and them, including respecting their feelings when letting them know.
Have your values clear and never accept less. Even though at times it might seem nobody’s out there who matches your values and worth don’t give up and stick to what you know is true!!! Anything else is accepting abuse!!
Talk with your date about posting on social media. What you both want to share and not share about you rather than finding it on there.
Pressure is not love, and to pressure someone is not normal and definitely not loving or caring. You know yourself best and what you want and how far you want to go in any relationship.
For girls: if you go out with older boy really know what YOU want as they might expect more than what you want to give! Don’t have sex or do anything sexual with them before you are ready (that is if you even are). #dontletanyonepressureyou☝️
How do you know if you are really in love? There are so many images and ideas about love that don’t match reality, so be open to get to know each other. Love is having fun and enjoying spending time together. If you need constant reassurance and feel you have to control the other, these are signs that its unhealthy #notlove
You might find yourself having thoughts of ‘what do I say?’, ‘oh no I shouldn’t have said that!’, ‘do they think I’m boring?’, ‘do they like me?’ Trying to be someone else is exhausting and of course they don’t get to know the real you. Just be you, you are enough. True love is sharing your true you with another person. You like each other for who you truly are.
It takes time
How do I speak to someone I fancy and ask them out? 😬
Remember many people feel nervous or fear rejection when asking someone out, it’s not just something only you feel.
The first kiss! 💋 So, the dates going well 🤗 what about the first kiss?
Like asking someone out you may get a sense of this, a sense of them and you and when it feels right. What is their body language saying? What is your body language saying? Like anything physical or sexual there should never be any pressure and always consent. It should always be something BOTH of you want. Not just one person. Again, this is something to enjoy, take it slowly, be gentle and have light pressure, keep your mouth relaxed. A single, soft kiss is simple and sweet and easy to build on from there on, feeling your partner and responding to each other.