Dating - Tips - True2You

How to ask out your crush?

What about the first kiss?

How do you know if you are really in love?

Dating can take you to highs and lows. You may be excited and have the strongest feelings of your life, which is great when things are going well, but if it’s not going well or the relationship ends, we can find ourselves being devasted. So, what’s the key to not letting this happen?

Finding someone who really loves you back, cares for and respects you.

If your feelings aren’t returned you may start to question yourself believing that there is something wrong with you, that you’re not good enough. In a healthy relationship, the feelings are mutual, respecting each other, having fun together. If this is not the case its super important to know there is NOTHING WRONG with YOU just stay with your values and what you know is true.

Be loving and know when it’s time to move on.

If you feel it’s not working with the other person, then let them know that you don’t want to continue. You don’t have to tell them what you don’t like about them, this doesn’t matter, it’s about respecting you and them, including respecting their feelings when letting them know.

Don't accept less!

Have your values clear and never accept less. Even though at times it might seem nobody’s out there who matches your values and worth don’t give up and stick to what you know is true!!! Anything else is accepting abuse!!

Posting on Social Media instead of finding it on there

Talk with your date about posting on social media. What you both want to share and not share about you rather than finding it on there.

Don't let anybody pressure you

Pressure is not love, and to pressure someone is not normal and definitely not loving or caring. You know yourself best and what you want and how far you want to go in any relationship.

For girls: if you go out with older boy really know what YOU want as they might expect more than what you want to give! Don’t have sex or do anything sexual with them before you are ready (that is if you even are). #dontletanyonepressureyou☝️

Let Love unfold

How do you know if you are really in love? There are so many images and ideas about love that don’t match reality, so be open to get to know each other. Love is having fun and enjoying spending time together. If you need constant reassurance and feel you have to control the other, these are signs that its unhealthy #notlove

Be you

You might find yourself having thoughts of ‘what do I say?’, ‘oh no I shouldn’t have said that!’, ‘do they think I’m boring?’, ‘do they like me?’ Trying to be someone else is exhausting and of course they don’t get to know the real you. Just be you, you are enough. True love is sharing your true you with another person. You like each other for who you truly are.

It takes time

We live in a world where we are used to getting everything instantly. If we want food or clothes, we order it ..job done. If we want to watch a movie, we go to Netflix … There is no waiting. We are used to NOT waiting.

We also live in a world with filters – if it doesn’t look good put a filter on it, so we can say life is AMAZING even though it’s not what we are feeling. We project out to the world something different to what we are feeling within and this is happening a lot .. EVERYWHERE. So how does this affect our relationships?

It can get us into behaviours of wanting it (relationships) quickly. BUT relationships that are deep and meaningful in truth, are a process. It can be a slow process where on first dates etc. feelings might come up of awkwardness, not feeling good enough, feeling uncomfortable or saying the ‘wrong’ thing. It’s not instantaneous, they take time, but going with the flow and the process can be a fulfilling journey where you get to learn and love yourself and the other/s more.

How do I speak to someone I fancy and ask them out? 😬

Remember many people feel nervous or fear rejection when asking someone out, it’s not just something only you feel.

If its someone you know – what is the feeling you get when you are with them? Do you have a laugh and find it easy to speak to them? Do you get a sense that they like you too? If you find it easy ask them if they want to hang out or go somewhere you think you will both like – skating, movie, the park. If they say yes. YAY, Great enjoy! If they say no that’s okay too, at least you have asked and now know not to pursue the relationship or have thoughts about them in that way. Time to bring back the love to you, have fun and wait until you have feelings for someone else, or someone has feelings for you and asks you out.

The first kiss! 💋 So, the dates going well 🤗 what about the first kiss?

Like asking someone out you may get a sense of this, a sense of them and you and when it feels right. What is their body language saying? What is your body language saying? Like anything physical or sexual there should never be any pressure and always consent. It should always be something BOTH of you want. Not just one person. Again, this is something to enjoy, take it slowly, be gentle and have light pressure, keep your mouth relaxed. A single, soft kiss is simple and sweet and easy to build on from there on, feeling your partner and responding to each other.