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What is the right Position and Technique?
Do you expect to be perfect and do it right?
What is hidden behind the pictures?
What difference can respect and love make?!
There is no ‘right’ position or technique. The ‘best’ position is what feels right for you. Simple. Your joy and pleasure during sex does not depend on having to be in a specific position and although it may be fun to try new positions, don’t expect to find the ‘magic’ one.
Sex is always the expression of how you feel about yourself and with your partner. The position is just a tiny ingredient of a whole menu that is all about connection. And whatever position you choose will only be as relevant as the connection you have during sex.
Positions will not give you a deeper or different connection with your partner. The connection comes first and from this the position will follow. Therefore, your relationship and the connection you have with your partner is the actual main ingredient.
Remember: Everyone’s body is different, we all have different shapes and sizes, and this also includes our genitals. So, one position that may work for one person might not work for another. And just because you had sex once in one position doesn’t mean that you will have to continue to have sex in that position.
The way we feel and how our body feels can change from one moment to the next. Being honest with yourself and communicating about these changes and how you feel is really important or else you might end up doing something you don’t feel comfortable with.
Sex is something we do when we feel truly safe and connected to our partner.
It’s really important to not base sex on the outside and what the ‘ideal’ version of sex might look like. Sex is about connection and enjoying being with your partner and yourself in every moment. It’s about feeling the depth of your relationship and the way you are with each other. Feeling the beautiful body of your partner and the sweetness of his or her hands on your body.
Needs and pictures sometimes get in the way, and we get convinced that we need to have sex in a certain way. We get fed pictures and ideals from movies, tv, music and porn. Getting rid of these pictures and ideals might initially be difficult but this is where being honest in the relationship and coming back to what our body is communicating, supports us.
Having fun at exploring what is behind all these pictures and opening up to making love.
[1] https://www.bishuk.com/sex/how-to-have-sex-positions/
