Category > Dating, Sex, Love & Relationships
Myth Busting about Dating
Is sex the most important thing?
When you love someone you give them a gift
1. You have to be with each other most of the time
2. Once you are in a relationship you don’t need anyone else!
It can be tempting to spend all of your time with your new partner which may leave you feeling why do you need anyone else? Remember relationships are not just with the person we are dating but with everyone in our life. If we dump everyone else, just to be with a partner, what happens to the quality of all the other relationships we have? Having different people and connections in our life is enriching. Just because you are in a relationship now doesn’t mean you can and should forget about everyone else in your life … make time/space for them equally.
3. It’s not good to have an argument
Having arguments is not a bad thing. We all have different opinions and feelings and it’s important that you can both communicate these with each other. When doing this, you may find out that arguments take place. It is how we are with each other during and after the argument that counts, and that we are able to talk things through afterwards and understand each other’s feelings. Remember, relationships are about deepening and connecting with your partner and because of that an argument is sometimes unavoidable. It is when arguments become daily and constant where it could be a sign of the relationship becoming unhealthy or toxic. So, if you find this is happening a lot, speak with a professional or friend for advice.
4. Sex is the most important thing in a relationship
5. I need to have sex regularly with my partner
This is not true. If you find yourself feeling that you have to have sex regularly to please or even worse to keep your partner then stop, and ask yourself where this is coming from. If it’s a belief or something that you thought was true .. it definitely is not. Sex or anything sexual should ALWAYS be something that BOTH people want and not where one person feels it is something they have to do to keep their partner ‘happy’. If you feel pressured by your partner (or society) or that they want to be more sexually active than you, then talk about it. Tell them how you feel and if the partner is not okay with it then it may be time to walk away.
6. To show someone you love them you have to buy them gifts
Not True! If a relationship is based on gifts or gestures it could lead it to being shallow and not deep and meaningful. Just by being you, being caring, respectful and able to have a laugh with them should be more than enough for them. That’s way sexier and more fun than feeling like you have to buy your partner something to show how you feel about them.
References:
https://www.healthline.com/health/kissing-tips#how-to-make-a-move
https://www.brook.org.uk/your-life/looking-for-a-relationship/
https://fb.watch/4FE_ZpCu9Z/
