Start observing yourself and your surroundings during your day. You experience then how people, places, groups and situations can feel differently.
Observing yourself is becoming aware of your feelings and watching your reactions to different situations, experiences and people. You will be amazed by how much you can actually feel about the other person, before they even say something!
Feelings can often let you know if something is appropriate for you or not.
Through observation you become more aware of yourself and also which parts of yourself are really affected by all the images, beliefs and ideals we are constantly exposed to about how to ‘be a man’ or how to ‘be a woman’.
Question one thing per day!!
Could it be that we are constantly being told how to be, how to feel, how to act, without questioning. Think about one thing you have been told to do: does it feel right to do? Can you see why you are doing it? Is it good for you?
For example: Why did you post your latest post? Why did you agree to something a friend or partner asks you to do? Why do you wear that dress or top? Why did you make that sexist joke? Why did you not say what you felt?
We need to train ourselves to be able to observe everything with a critical eye. Allowing us to be confident in and with our own bodies and what we are feeling.
How well do you know yourself?
● spend time on your own
● observe your feelings, emotions, thoughts, actions, words
● observe how your environment can affect you
● say no to what is not supporting you
● do what you love
● say no to abuse
● breathe your own breath
● accept yourself as you learn and grow
● laugh at yourself
● love yourself
● allow yourself to be sensitive
Read what others have discovered when observing themselves:
„I wasn‘t aware of how unbothered I could be about the judgement, opinions and comments of others. It‘s not that I don’t care, but that my focus is on how I feel ….“, „Through observing the feelings and reactions of myself and others I noticed how understanding I have become and the judgement has stopped.“ Emily, 19 years.
“Recently an accident happened in our tennis practice and someone got seriously injured. The people, who were nearby all got in to panic-mode or took a look out of curiosity. I stayed with myself and didn’t engage into the panic and observed the situation. A clear shift started to happen as I did that and as we waited for the ambulance almost everyone and most importantly the injured person calmed down and even took it with some humor. The panic and the fear were clearly gone. In the past this wouldn’t have been an easy situation for me to handle as I would have gotten into panic-mode, but by staying in observation and with myself everything else got much easier.” Tom, 20 years