So, we have all seen the movies and romantic comedies telling us exactly what a romantic relationship is .. but is it really this?
Where two people meet, have an argument, then don’t talk to each other for ages and then just before the movie ends, they realise and share their undying love for each other (cue running towards each other in slow motion) 😶 er so love is not this? No!
There are also ideals of ‘finding the one’ or ‘soul mate’ which puts a lot of pressure on either holding out or looking for that one person. This can then be filled with projections (pictures) of what we want or think it should be like and expectations of finding that person, desperate to fulfil the pictures we have of what it should be like and what we ‘want’.
Gosh it sounds so exhausting! But what if we do this, then miss or not see the potential of a relationship with other people in our lives as we are constantly looking for this one other person.
There is also the image of romantic love that has been sold to us, that the partner is the most important person in your life, but is this true?
A romantic relationship will of course be different from your other relationships. You may feel or find you have a different kind of bond or connection with that person and of course fancy them as well as wanting to be physically closer to them in a different way to other people in your life.
But the foundation for romantic relationships should be exactly the same as all our other relationships which is one of respect, trust, care, where you can be you, are able to communicate easily and say how you feel.
In taking the pressure off of what love should look or be like it makes the relationship easier to enjoy 🤗
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