Category > Relationships, Self-love & Self-care
Single by choice
Can we be single by choice? If you are single, do you feel like you have to explain or justify why you are not with someone? Or, feel pressured that you have to be with someone, especially if your friends are, and if you are not then there is something really wrong with you!
The stigma of being single – as much as society talks about being ‘free’ and ‘liberated’ in reality many people and specifically young men and women don’t feel comfortable with being single. Being single might be ok at a certain age, but when you reach the age of 16, 17 or 18 and these days even earlier, it may become a subject that’s imposed onto you by others if you haven’t dated anyone yet, are not currently in a relationship or don’t feel like dating.
Because of this you may find yourself investing in the wrong relationship/s. Relationships that are toxic .. just to say you are in a relationship and to feel ‘normal’. This can then lead to a very slippery road of a stream of unhealthy or toxic relationships. Just because we feel like we have to ‘fit’ in or that something is wrong with us when we are not in a relationship.
First up, what if this is actually all wrong! And instead, we see that being in a relationship for the sake of being or saying we are in a relationship is unhealthy or toxic?
Is it possible to be single by choice??
What if instead of being governed by what we see and are told about being single .. we make it a choice?
Our choice.
Now that is empowering! Choosing to be single is actually a choice to be in relationship firstly with yourself. This is then an opportunity to develop a deeper connection with you by just giving yourself the space to learn and get to know more about you.
In doing this, it brings a commitment of love first to yourself that is then brought out to the world in all of your interactions with others. You set the standard of the new normal ✨ and then, when you do decide to be in a relationship, this is a choice that comes from you, from a platform of self-worth, self-love and loving you. No toxic relationships, feeling you are not normal or that there is something ‘wrong’ with you. Pretty cool.
