Most young people who act violently or abusive in a relationship do not consider themselves as being abusers.
Many of them deny or do not think that such behaviour is a big deal. You as a friend might find it difficult to believe that your friend is an abuser. Talking to a friend who has been violent is not an easy thing to do but it is a sign of a true friendship.
When you talk to the friend who is abusive, the following might help:
Do not pretend that you don’t know what is going on.
Be specific about what you have seen and how you feel about it.
Tell your friend that this is not ok and that you won’t allow this to continue.
Make sure that your friend understands that they are responsible for their behaviour and the consequences, because abuse/violence is a crime.
Do not accept any excuses or justifications from them.Help them to find professional help, to talk with teachers at school or the school’s psychologist or any other grown-up that they trust.
Offer your friend your support during the process of seeking help.
Tell your friend that you are worried and care about them.Be a role model for healthy relationships by treating them and others with respect.
Remember we all play a role in creating a culture of respect and Saying NO to violence and abuse! Don´t be the bystander, be the hero !!!
“The world will not be destroyed by those who do evil, but by those who watch them without doing anything.”
– Albert Einstein
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