Every year on the 8th of March it’s International Women’s Day … celebrating girls and women across the world. Every year there is a different theme for the day. This year’s theme is #BreakTheBias.
Okay so this might sound ‘catchy’ but what does it actually mean?
If we look at the two words ‘break’ and ‘bias’
- Bias – to prejudice against one person or a group
- Break – to separate or cause separation
So, it could be said that breaking the bias means to stop a prejudice and make opportunities equal for all genders BUT how do we do this and what if we don’t need to break anything … is it possible to break something that is already broken? What if we don’t actually need to break anything but #BreakingTheBias first comes in how we are with and connect to ourselves? No striving, no fighting just a different way of living and being.
The gender bias
What does our gender mean? Is there more to us than our gender? Are we a girl or a woman because of our biological features – a body with breasts, a vagina, a reproductive system, as well as the way we dress, do our hair, wear make-up or, supposedly like the colour pink … or is there more to femaleness than this? Likewise, what makes a boy or man male? Is it because they like the colour blue, like sports and gaming and don’t cry?
On some level we have come away from these stereotypes, and there has been more equal opportunities for example, girls and women are now playing football, studying engineering and are in leadership positions … but have we and are we truly evolving?
We have created a massive variety of gender boxes for a sense of belonging and to break away from these stereotypes but has this broken the bias and made genders more equal and what does it mean to be equal? So many questions here!!! Taking a step back from all this and in reflecting on what it means to be a female or male we hardly look at the quality we move and live in and treat ourselves and others with.
What would life be like if we made it about the quality of who we are as a person? Making it about true purpose and a commitment that comes from cherishing and loving ourselves first.
We are all born complete no matter which body we are in and our gender identity should not be defined by the fact that our biological sex matches or doesn’t match with the pre-determined gender box.
Could it be for us instead to realise that we are amazing and complete in whatever body we are born and that we don’t have to try to match anybody’s expectations.
So, when we claim to #BreakTheBias, what is the bias we actually have to break? And do we actually really have to break the bias, or do we simply start feeling and claiming more of the completeness and grandness we already are?
How do we do this in a world that is full of inequalities, injustice, and gender bias?
The biggest lie that the gender bias has sold us is that we have to follow a certain norm and strive and drive with a lot of effort and trying through our lives to finally become complete! What if the real bias is that we have been super corrupted to believe that we are incomplete and that we have to become someone!
When we come from a space within that we are already complete wouldn’t then following this ‘norm’ feel alien and untrue?
So then, could it be that the real bias is first the one that makes us live and feel as though we are incomplete. That we have to strive for our dreams, prove ourselves, the lie we have to ‘become someone’ or ‘something’ concentrating on the outside and our external environment thinking we have to compete which takes us away from our internal and innate connection with ourselves … the first and original sense of completeness. Would we look at a baby and see all the things they aren’t or what they are not doing or do we look at a baby knowing there is a wholesomeness and completeness. They just are!
#BreakingTheBias could then be to live who we truly are, without fighting against a corrupt model, but by living a quality that makes normal what we long have forgotten: That our body is our amazing home and that when we take care of, love and nurture our body we live the completeness we already are and anything we do in life is not driven by a fight and struggle but by the grandness we feel in everything we do and instead everything just unfolds from here.
To live un-biased is to live in our body in the knowing that it is our most sacred temple and that every movement matters and creates and influences our reality.