How to LOVE ourselves?
Loving yourself is just about making decisions and choices that truly support you!
Making decisions that truly support you is TAKING CARE OF YOURSELF. It is listening to your body and what you are feeling and responding to it.
Paying attention to what and how we feel is important. It helps us to have something we can rely upon and say yes or no to. It’s our inner compass!
We can make decisions from our heart: Making decisions from our heart is listening and responding to everything you feel.
Loving yourself is your Nº 1 responsibility
Making decisions that truly support you is loving you and this is Self-love – it’s the love you express towards yourself.
Loving yourself is your Nº 1 responsibility, no matter if you are in a relationship or not. How awesome is that!!
If you love yourself, when going into a relationship you are not looking for the other person to fill your needs, but you are free to share and enjoy the love you are growing together.
What happens when we don’t love ourselves?
We feel empty, lonely, not good enough and we are constantly trying to better ourselves, looking for recognition and attention hoping to get the love that we want from another.
Scenario 1: Imagine, you are empty, lonely and hate yourself and your body. Then someone is interested in you and gives you the attention and adoration you have never given to yourself. You will feel super loved, BUT do you know then if it is true love or just someone paying attention to you….??
Scenario 2: Someone is saying nice words to you ‘you are beautiful’, ‘you are sexy’, ‘amazing’, ‘cute’, ‘good looking’, ‘I love you’…. But words are easy to say without meaning it, so if you never had these words for yourself you will be sooo flattered…..but how do you know these words are true?
Scenario 3: Someone is interested in you and your body…. The body that you ‘ve never appreciated….. but are they wanting to love and respect your body or just wanting your body to fulfil their own needs and desires? ….. How do you know if you’ve never cherished your body?
Thirsty for love......
In an empty body you are thirsty for love like a traveller in the desert is desiring water…… you just take anything that will quench your thirst.
Do you really want to fall in love like a thirsty traveller in the desert, or would you like to be full of love already and start a relationship like that?
If you love yourself you will not look for someone else or the “right person” to bring that love to you ….. you already have the love for you and so won’t settle for less.
You will not let others pressure you to do something you don’t feel like, because you already feel gorgeous, amazing and awesome within yourself and you go out into the world with that feeling.
We all crave love, but we crave love because we don’t learn how to love ourselves.
Loving ourselves can be easy!! So, let’s have and hold standards for the love we feel we deserve, and everybody deserves. Don’t let others determine standards for you!!!
