If he is my boyfriend, is it abuse if we have sex without me wanting it? - True2You

Is it abusive if my boyfriend has sex with me without me wanting it?

Absolutely! If there is no consent then its rape. Consent is always needed .. Every Single Time. Why would your boyfriend, who is there to love and cherish you want to have sex with you when you don’t want it? If someone loves and cares about you they will never do something to you that you don’t want or that would hurt you. If you want to talk about this more with someone our team are always here for you.

Read our article on Consent.

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